Though the Osteens have been married for more than 30 years, it wasn’t always smooth sailing. Married life is an adjustment for everyone, even those who seem like a perfect match. In a blog post for Joel Osteen Ministries site, Victoria revealed the struggles she first had in their marriage and credits God for saving their relationship early on.
Victoria was apparently very set in her own ways when she first tied the knot and wasn’t happy when she didn’t get her way (hello, the tiny piece of newlywed Victoria in all of us). Relationships, though, are all about compromise. Thankfully, the big guy upstairs stepped in, according Victoria. “God spoke clearly to me: Victoria, if you don’t change the way you’re acting, you’re going to change the man you married,” she wrote. “Well, that got my attention, because I didn’t want to change Joel’s personality. I love Joel. That’s why I married him. I knew that I had to be willing to make some changes.”
These days, Victoria and Joel sometimes disagree, but she revealed that they don’t argue, per se, because Joel refuses to engage. Instead, they “walk in love” and “agree to disagree.” Can she please teach us how to amicably agree to disagree about whose turn it is to take out the trash? That would be quite helpful.